Safe sex is something we've all been hearing about for years. Condoms, dental dams, gloves, and finger cots are all wonderful products that help protect us from spreading or getting STDs as well as helping to prevent pregnancy. Yet, for a lot of people, it can be challenging to make safe sex seem, well sexy (especially in the heat of the moment). If you find yourself in this category, read on and learn some great new ways to incorporate safe sex into your bedroom or wherever.Change Your PerspectiveOne of the most important aspects of introducing a new routine into your sex life is looking at it in a positive context. How much fun is it going be if every time you look at a condom or a dental dam you see it as a barrier that is just getting in the way? Instead try to take the opposite approach. Think about safer sex products as a kind of permission slip, once you put it on, you can now relax and enjoy your sexual escapades knowing that you have taken the best possible precautions against unwanted incidents. Peace of mind can be a great turn on.Make Yourself A Sex KitWe have first aid kits, make-up kits, bike repair kits, even fishing kits -- so why not build your own sex kit? You can include your favorite toys, condoms, lube, candles, music, even breath mints. Fill it with whatever supplies you would like to have handy and keep it in a special place. Then, every time you open it you'll get a giddy sense of pride and excitement as your eyes feast on all of your favorite sexual ingredients. Participate!Putting on a condom might get boring, so why not let your partner help. Try rolling the condom onto your partner with your mouth (you might want to practice this first on a toy or a banana). The easiest way is to place the condom in your mouth behind your teeth, using your tongue to hold the tip in place while you roll down with your lips. You can also incorporate condoms, dams, and gloves into your foreplay with a sexy game (this works especially well for those who love role playing and/or some Submission/Domination action). Hiding a condom or dam somewhere under your clothes or sneaking it into your partner's bag, purse, day planner, etc. is a great way to create an association between condoms and a sexy surprise. Variety Is The Spice Of LifeWe are lucky to live in a time with many, many, choices when it comes to our safer sex products. Try experimenting with different colors and textures of condoms. Some are designed with special ribbing to make sensations more sensitive, others are wider, thinner, thicker, you name it. If you don't like the taste of latex, why not try a flavoured lube or get creative with some supplies you might have around the house. Chocolate syrup, honey, or even whipped cream can be used over condoms and dental dams (just make sure you replace it if there is going to be any vaginal or anal penetration later, and keep sugar out of the vagina -- it can trigger yeast infections).Try using different colored gloves; this will come in handy to tell which ones are used for vaginal or anal entry. If you are not fond of having a glove over your hand, try finger cots. If you want to increase the sensation for your hand wearing a glove, a few drops of lube inside the glove (after you put it on) can make it feel like it's not even there. If you are out of dams and have a latex glove available, simply cut the fingers off and slice open one side for a flat surface. You can also try this with a condom. When you find the products you enjoy using they become less like obstacles and more like extra toys that help enhance your overall experience.Forget Everything ElseWhile penetration is fun, don't lose sight of everything else your partner has to offer. Kissing, nibbling, cuddling, massage, and mutual masturbation are only a few of the many ways we can experience safe sexual pleasure outside penetration. Finding new ways to give and receive pleasure are always exciting to discover and can also help keep your sex life from getting stale.ConsistencyThe more often you include safer sex products into your life, the sooner they will become natural elements of your sexual routines. When we repeat an action often enough, we become accustomed to it being there, and it feels less like an intrusion.Like most everything else in life, imagination is key. Finding new ways to give and experience pleasure is a lifelong pursuit. By consciously thinking of ways to incorporate safer sex products into your sexual endeavours, you'll essentially be thinking about new ways to experience sex. This can lead to all kinds of wonderful possibilities, and at the end of the night, you'll know that you are protected.
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